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Woman in a polyandrous marriage |
Rael is married to two men whom she says are happy with the setup.
She has 11 children from this marriage.
“Rael Mukeku,35, lives in a grass-thatched, mud-and-wattle hut, the only house occupying a small rocky compound behind Kathekakai Market on the fringes of the Chyulu Hills National Park in Makueni County…” the story in the Daily Nation of 3rd september goes.
Apparently, Rael is in a polyandrous marriage. Married to Muema Nguu (50) and Mutuku Muia (45) for the past 11 years.
Now, these two, I won't even call them men, who collectively have 11 children, are casual labourers struggling to support their one wife.
How did it all start?
Its reported that Raels’ physical needs pushed her to get another husband to fulfil them since the first husband, Muema Nguu, who is 50, and sickly, wasn't able to. That Muema requested for a helper and Rael hesitated not in introducing Mutuku to Muema. The two then went ahead to strike a deal witnessed by a local elder and one of their adult sons.
Mutuku went ahead and sired 4 children with Rael.
At first, when Muema realised that Rael was pregnant, he wasn't impressed. He says: “Upon realising that he had impregnated her I got mad and warned that such should not be repeated”.
Ladies and gentlemen of honour, what happened to the African manhood in kamba men?
I repeat, what happened?
Is it not for a man to have several women? Is it not prestigious when a man, a real one, marries more than two and sires 10 plus children?
“Real men, in this case African, are instinctively polygamous and cannot be satisfied by one woman due to their deep-rooted appetite for variety. They are intended to seek multiple partners, veritably from a biological perspective. More often than not, only one egg at a time is available in a female’s uterus for fertilization.” asserts Nancy Roxanne, In contrast, males can ejaculate repeated loads of millions of sperm cells in a given day, any one of which can produce an offspring.
Monogamy is a social construct, and even men in such unions are always itching to have more children. So much that it’s their women who worry about family planning. So what is it with these kamba genes?
The kamba man
The kamba man
Muema and Mutuku just represent, and am not apologetic, the whole community. I want to demystify the notion that kamba ladies are beasts in between sheets NO. It's just that when she encounters a real man, the ecstasy and treatment overwhelms her and she gets out her ‘kamba man’ cocoon.
Kamba ladies need real men to extinguish their fire.
Unfortunately, there fellow tribesmen aren't wired to do it. Look at these two kamba males who sit down and agree to share a woman. Reason being, one can’t just manage her.
Pause for a minute and check on the married kamba ladies you happen to know, how many of them are married to fellow kambas?
You see.
Kamba men and family responsibilities
Kamba men and family responsibilities
Talking to a few kamba ladies, one comes to the realisation that once a kamba man puts you in the family way, he doesn't care what happens next to the young one, especially if its a boy, who will definitely require a father figure. The ladies will not even give a damn to look for their baby daddy.
The kamba man cannot stand in the counsel of other men, you know what I mean. He cannot speak in the presence of elders. He doesn't qualify to be one.
It’s only in Ukambani you’ll have problems identifying the male voice and feminine one. I dare you to go to Masaku, Makueni and Kitui counties, I bet, you'll barely find well built 4ft tall men.
Is this why kamba ladies disown their own and run for the other alpha males in the country?
Is it true that real men are born in western, nurtured in nyanza and killed in Ukambani?
